Today I'm grateful for the Mommy2Mommy group I'm in on Facebook. It's a secret group, which, in the Facebook world, means that no one can see it except the people in it, and no one can see what you post in it. This morning I had a checkup but my doctor was out sick, so I saw a midwife I've never seen before. One of the first things she asked is why I've gained so much weight in my pregnancy. I explained my doctor has previously told me not to worry about my weight unless she tells me to, and she hasn't said anything so I've tried not to worry. The midwife seemed to disagree and talked to me about how I could slow my gain. The conversation made me feel very bad (though I don't think that was her intention) because I already feel awkward and unattractive and gross as is.
However, I posted about it in the Mommy2Mommy group and got tons of support. As of now over 60 comments from women explaining they gained as much or more than I've gained in their pregnancies, and their doctors weren't worried about it, and they were able to lose the weight post-birth within different time frames. Many women encouraged me to listen to my doctor, not the midwife, and to rest assured that, as long as my blood pressure is good and I don't have other medical issues, the weight gain isn't cause for alarm--my body is doing what it needs to for the pregnancy.
I've been reading the comments as they keep coming in for the last 9 hours, and it has made me feel very supported and normal and reassured. So I am really grateful for that group.
Each of my parents and Jack were also reassuring, so that helped. I'm really glad to have so much support.
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