Sunday, October 17, 2021
10.17.21 - Joy status: leisurely Sunday morning
Saturday, October 2, 2021
10.2.21 - Joy status: begin the last quarter of the year
Sunday, April 4, 2021
4.4.21 - Joy status: Living room to myself
Thursday, February 11, 2021
2.11.21 - Joy status: upcoming Valentine's party, potential childcare help
Monday, February 8, 2021
2.8.21 - Joy status: Dollar Tree
Thursday, December 31, 2020
12.31.20 - Kid snippets - Clara interested in date night
Clara: Okay, but when I grow up can I have a date?
Me: Yes, you probably can
Clara: Yes and when I grow up and Hunter grows up, we can have a date
Me: We'll see. Go back to bed.
Clara: But has the date started yet?
Me: No! Hon, Dad left to go get food. Go to bed!
Clara: Ok!
Friday, December 25, 2020
2020 Christmas at home
Clara was excited to carefully arrange the Christmas cookies, carrots, and glass of milk for Santa. She had even picked out a specific spot on the kitchen table where the plate should go.
When I put the kids to bed, after I told them I loved them I said "Merry Christmas Eve!" thereafter for the half a dozen times or so I had to go back in there each time I left Clara would say it to me again.
Around 9:30 she got up to use the bathroom and I had to walk her through washing her hands and going back to bed. As she was leaving the bathroom she poked her head in the living room very quickly, and of course it looked exactly as it did an hour or so ago when we put them to bed. She complained that Santa hadn't come yet. I pointed out that she hasn't even gone to sleep yet. We have told her many times that Santa won't come if she's awake. She asked if he would come very very quickly as soon as she fell asleep. I think she thinks the moment she falls asleep, he will appear.
I set my alarm for 1am and Jack and I got up then to put out presents. It was fun playing Santa with him. I was actually pretty nervous that Clara would wake up and peek. We were careful to put out all the non-Santa presents first just in case. Then we tried to quickly stuff the stockings (I guess we've decided in this house that's a Santa thing), out out the Santa presents, and eat 80% of the milk and cookies (we just put the carrots back in the fridge). Not a creature stirred.
The next morning I waited impatiently for the girls to wake up. As usual Calvin woke up first, but I didn't want to just be hanging out with him in the living room when the girls got up. I wanted them to be the ones to "discover" that Santa had come. I brought Calvin into our room with Jack and me and he dozed some more. I lied awkwardly on the edge of the bed to give him room without letting him roll off of it and I tried to do things on my phone. Of course on this day the girls slept in more than usual.
Still, eventually I heard them get up, and they came into our room and Clara shouted "Mom and Dad, IT'S CHRISTMAS!" Then she looked down the hallway to the kitchen table and saw some milk and cookies still left, and I could tell for a moment she thought no one had eaten them. She had a little frown and said "Wait a second..." and walked toward them, but then she saw they were mostly gone and got really excited. Then she turned and saw the presents. It was magical.
I told the kids they could open one gift each and then we were going to get dressed in our Christmas outfits. I've really come around to how important ritual--including specific clothing--can be to making something feel special, plus I wanted to have a lot of cute photos. The girls were excited to put on their dresses and Clara asked that Jack not come in the nursery so she could surprise him with her beautiful dress. I told Clara she looked absolutely beautiful and she smiled and said "Yes. I do!"
They were also thrilled to take the last chain off the Christmas countdown chain and Clara jumped up and down when I said "It's finally Christmas!"
We went back out to open more gifts, and I enjoyed how they wanted to stop and play with each gift rather than tear through all of them at once. We paused present opening a few times to let them play, and it was nice to know we have nowhere else we have to be and can take all the time we want. They stopped for awhile to check out Clara's stencil set in particular.
At some point we called Grandma Wiseman to thank her for her gifts, and Clara was happy to take the phone and chat with Grandma about how we made cookies and left them for Santa and how he ate most of them, and about how when we woke up there were so many presents.
This year Jack and I separately took the girls to Dollar Tree to buy gifts for each parent, and it was so sweet to see how excited they were for us to open our gifts. They got me slippers, two coffe mugs that said mom, and some fake yellow flowers. Clara informed me I could use those the next time I marry Jack. They got Jack a calculator (which Jane thought was a phone), some pens, a magnetic notebook, and other items I was hoping he could actually use.
When we had opened all the presents, Jack helped clean up and I made "Santa pancakes" which just involves using whipped cream and strawberries to make the pancakes look like Santa faces. Clara was very excited to watch. Calvin ate a lot of Jane's Santa pancake while she was in the bathroom, so I said I could help her make a new one. This time she wanted only the whipped cream, so her Santa had no hat or eyes or nose or mouth, just a beard. But she was happy with it.
One of the girls' stocking gifts was nail polish. I painted their nails and put a 5 minute time on to let them dry. But for Jane, even 20 minutes later she was still holding her hands carefully and hesitatingly touching things. She kept looking at her fingernails and admiring them, it was pretty cute.
I spent the rest of the day on and off helping the kids learn about their new gifts and cooking for a fancy dinner. I made cheesy "bread" (mostly chopped cauliflower), a cheesy sun dried tomato Brussels sprout bake, and cranberry bliss bars. At some point during all this, our neighbor Gana came by and offered us a bowl of potato salad to wish us Merry Christmas, which was so sweet especially since she doesn't really celebrate Christmas. Later I left her a tupperware container of cranberry bliss bars and a card in return.
While I was cooking I video chatted with Mom for awhile. She was at Julie and Denny's but took a break to talk to me about how our days were going. I propped the phone on the counter so I could cook while talking to her and it was a nice little visit.
Before dinner we Skyped with the Jacksons to do our virtual letter exchange. Don & Merlene outdid themselves this year by making every letter a rhyming poem. I also think it's sweet that they write individual letters to not only Jack and me but also each of our kids. Aaron and Katie's letter had a part about how much they appreciate my SPL work, which meant a lot to me.
Dinner was also great. Both Jack and Calvin seems to really enjoy it. Clara mostly just ate the Costco rotisserie chicken but that's okay. Jane seems to like everything except the Brussels sprouts. I was just proud to have put a whole dinner together, and a little exhausted. We also had just enough wine left for one glass, which Jack gave to me.
At the end of the evening all three kids got to try their ultra soft robes from Mimi and Gpa, and the girls got to check out their reading lamps Jama had gotten them.
Thursday, December 24, 2020
12.24.20 - Christmas Eve kid snippets
Me: We are not getting a kitty
Clara: But Mom! People need kitties!
Clara: ...no
Me: Okay, go wash your hands.
Clara: Okay. AND I'm not lying!!
Clara (yelling): WHERE are the PENCILS?
Me: They're right here on the counter. What did we say about yelling?
Clara (calm): I'm not yelling. I'm just shouting.
Clara: Can you tell me something Mommy likes?
Jack: Mommy likes…you.
Clara: Noooo! I don't want to be inside a present!
Wednesday, December 23, 2020
12.23.20 - Joy status: looking forward to Christmas day
Wednesday, December 16, 2020
12.16.20 - Taking the girls to get gifts for Jack
I thought it would be good practice for the kids to give gifts to Jack and me. I don't want to actually spend a lot of time or money on it though, lol. So today I took the girls to the Dollar Tree.
It's only about 4 minutes from where we live, but they really enjoy when I mount my phone to the dashboard and let them watch our progress on Google maps. Clara kept asking if we were going to the Christmas store, And whether they had 100,000 or a million presents. I told her we were going to a store that had a lot of Christmas supplies though possibly not 100,000.
When we got there they enjoyed looking at a lot of the Christmas stuff that's up front. I had to explain to them many times over that we were looking for gifts for their dad, not for them. Clara wanted to buy a gift for her teddy bear, Bobo. She was a lot more interested in that than finding a gift for Jack. I tried to avoid the toy aisle, because I knew they would get distracted with what they wanted. Jane noticed calculators in the office supply aisle (she thought they were phones), so she picked one of those out for Jack. I convinced Clara to pick a magnetic notepad and some nice pens and Jane also chose a headset.
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| Jane considered getting Jack a little doll set. She said he'd like it. |
Then we went to the Christmas card section and they each picked out one for him. Clara's was one of the ones that's supposed to hold cash, although of course she doesn't know that. Jane's was one addressed to someone's son with love.
I brought cash just for the occasion, and I had each girl check out separately so they could each hand the dollars to the cashier. When Clara got her change she jumped up and down and giggled in excitement. Jane did not notice as much, because she was more interested in all the example balloons on display beyond the cash registers.
On the way home both girls talked a lot about The change Clara had, which they called monies. Clara dropped a coin and said she had three monies and now she only has two monies. Jane reassured her that they would find it together. Jane is so sweet and attentive to Clara sometimes. Clara was excited to get home to put the coins in our coin jars in the kitchen.
When we got home we busted out some of the brand new Christmas wrapping paper I recently bought, as well as ribbons and to/from tags. Clara helped cut the wrapping paper, and she and Jane each chose the color ribbons for their respective gifts. They watched with great interest and anticipation each time I filled out a tag to Jack from one of them. Calvin participated by walking all over the wrapping paper and trying to take supplies from us the whole time we were using them. And also at one point he kept hitting the wrapping paper with a fork. But he tends to stay content if he feels like he gets to be involved. As we finished wrapping each gift, the daughter it was from would go put it under our Christmas tree.
Once we were done with all of it, I found a small box for Clara to put a stuffed monkey in to give as a gift to Bobo. I had tried to tell her that Bobo is a stuffed animal, and stuffed animals don't get gifts. She responded that Bobo is a person, and should have a gift. Then she referred to him as "person Bobo" as we discussed it. Anyway Jack helped her wrap the gift for Bobo.
Since then Jane and Clara but especially Jane have asked me multiple times when we are going to open the presents. We keep explaining it won't happen until Christmas, but that doesn't stop them from asking. Clara said it's taking a long time.
Sunday, December 13, 2020
12.13.20 - At-home Polar Express
Yesterday the Jackson cousins were going to have a polar Express party at Donna Marlene's. We were originally going to skip it. Then they asked us if we wanted to video chat with them live. I considered saying no because I didn't want my kids to see a party going on that they couldn't go to. But then I decided we could just have our own party and enjoy it with them long distance.
So I brought home some large boxes from work, and yesterday the girls and I spent between four and five hours turning those boxes into our own miniature polar Express for them to sit in while watching the movie. in retrospect the process of making the train was probably as much if not more fun for them as the actual watch party. Clara in particular had a lot of input and was excited to add glue to construction paper. They both were excited to press the construction paper onto the box. I also sketched out the words "The polar Express" in fancy lettering and then Clara traced over it with a purple crayon. It was a long but pretty fun project and I was really happy with the result.
The train was done a few hours before the movie, and the kids got to play with it plenty. Clara put a cap on jingle Bear and have him sit in the engine and be the engineer. She also wrote hers and her siblings names on each of their respective train cars.
We dressed the kids and ourselves in St Louis blues pajamas as an homage to last year's polar Express. We gave the kids bowls of zebra popcorn and Jack made them hot chocolate. We let the girls drink theirs out of the polar Express mugs with straws. Then we video chatted with the Jacksons for probably 10 or 15 minutes and it was pretty adorable. The cousins took turns showing each other their polar Express setups. Marlene had made a train of boxes also for because the cousins to sit in. The girls were excited to show our train and our little people Nativity set and our mugs. The cousins washed it all with appropriate interest and showed their treasures too.
When it was time to watch the movie we turned off all the lights except for the Christmas lights. I gave the kids blankets to have in their respective train cars. Of course Calvin didn't last long before he tipped right out of his, and eventually Jane was too nervous with the creepy parts of the movie and wanted to sit with Jack and me on the couch. But Clara stayed in her caboose the entire time.
I think the best moment was right before the movie was starting and Clara could not contain her excitement. She kept saying she was so excited and stimming and even holding her breath a little bit. That alone might have made it worth it to me.
And as a bonus I even was able to write a lot of my Christmas cards while they were watching the movie.
Friday, December 11, 2020
12.11.20 - Stocking glitter and Holiday Lights
Today was unexpectedly pleasant. It's just a random Friday, but we had a lot of nice little Christmas moments.
First of all, Don and Merlene sent us a Little People nativity set. The kids had a lot of fun playing with it today. The best part was how Clara and Jane play together and acted out stories with each other using the figurines.
While Calvin was napping, the girls and I added glitter names to all of our stockings. It was a relaxing project for me since I didn't have to manage Calvin at the same time, and the girls seems to find it all pretty magical since of involved glitter. Clara said it looks like fairy dust. Jane whispered more than once that "it's beautiful."
When we were done with that, Clara wanted to write a letter to Santa. Not long prior she had been telling Jack and me about how Santa was going to bring her a Peppa pig doll. So as she dictated a letter to me for Santa, I kept trying to get her to tell him what she wants for Christmas. But she just didn't want to because she was more interested in telling him what we've been doing around the house to prepare for Christmas, such as adding names to the stockings. After I wrote out her thoughts, she signed herself and added some Christmas doodles at the bottom. She also was excited to put a stamp on the envelope.
Then tonight we took all three kids for a drive-thru Christmas light experience. It's the first year they've done this, and I imagine it was partly in response to the pandemic. No one had to leave their cars to experience it. Jack found some caramel chocolate popcorn on sale at Costco, so we brought that and drinks with us and slowly drove through all of the different displays. At one point about two thirds in was a live Santa to wave to everyone. Clara really love that. Both the girls seemed to really enjoy all of the lights. Jack and I enjoyed seeing which corporate sponsors designed which displays. For example one display was a reindeer driving a monster truck trying to run over a grandma in a walker. The sponsor was a senior assisted living home, lol. The organizers have volunteers give out candy canes for all the children in the cars, and they also broadcast Christmas music on an FM station for everybody. It was a really pleasant little outing.
Wednesday, December 9, 2020
12.9.20 - Joy status: SERI Christmas luncheon
Thursday, November 26, 2020
11.26.20 - Best parts of the Thanksgiving trip
It was fun watching the girls get excited about being in a hotel. They were very interested in crossing the elevator buttons, checking out the hotel lobby mirror installation, observing parts of downtown Colorado Springs from our window, and getting cozy in their bed.
I had a really nice time having dinner at The Keg while Miss Kristen watched our children. It was good to get to chat with Jen in particular without having our kids around.
I had a great time every time I got to play Catan. I felt like I was a decent contender and I even won the last game I played which was nice. But even when I don't win, I enjoy it. I like the trash talk and the strategy talk. I'm amused to watch Neil and Emily's dynamic with each other when they are in competition.
I'm really glad we made time to go to the ranch. Jack got to take Clara, Jane, and Jamie on the four-wheeler. And the ghost town is a lot of fun when there's bunch of kids getting excited about it.
At some point both Calvin and Jane were napping simultaneously and I got to get some SPL stuff done which I find so deeply satisfying. Additionally I had a long and very invigorating conversation with Emily planning how to move SPL forward and getting feedback from her. She seemed very interested in helping personally which is surprising and touching.
Matt's cooking for the entire trip was unbelievably awesome. of course is actual Thanksgiving food was amazing and all the more so because you made almost all of it gluten-free. That was so touching and I don't think I will soon forget it. But he also had amazing food for everyone every day before Thanksgiving too. Cinnamon rolls, emoji bread, bacon egg muffins and bacon grease hash browns, etc.
One evening he did pizza night and while people were making their own pizzas and then retrieving them to eat, we were also all watching Moana and that was really relaxing and enjoyable. It's the kind of movie that people of all ages can enjoy.
We also got to do a small version of the taste test and I was able to tell the difference between diet sodas and regular sodas and even the difference between diet Pepsi and Diet Coke. of course we need to have a larger sample set but it was fun and surprisingly emotionally invested lol. Ellen and Rocket were also able to correctly identify Diet Coke so we all took pride in that.
And this might be a small thing but I really liked having Thanksgiving specific outfits for all the kids. And I got at least one good picture of it so there.
Friday, November 20, 2020
11.20.20 - Joy status: travel joy inventory
- Calvin slept in, so hopefully he will *not* sleep on the drive to the airport and *will* sleep on the airplane.
- I packed small backpacks for each girl, including snacks, crayons and paper, books, and of course their Kindles. They are excited to have their own supplies to carry. In fact Clara won't take her backpack off even though we don't leave for the airport for about 2 more hours.
- We no longer have to stress about finding an Uber or Lyft with enough capacity for us. Now that we have the Mazda, we can just drive ourselves to the airport!
- Clara can't wait to go to the ranch so she can put more stuffed animals in jail (the ghost town jail Dad built).
- Matt is making Thanksgiving dinner and he got the right supplies to make **all of it** gluten free. Clara will get to fully participate! Means a lot to me.
Saturday, October 31, 2020
10.31.20 - Joy status: delightful Halloween newsfeed
Friday, October 23, 2020
10.23.20 - Joy status: a long list
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| TikTok put Calvin back to sleep. |
- This morning Calvin woke up before everyone else and cuddled on the couch with me for a good 45 minutes--watching TikTok, lol.
- My long work commute gives me time I wouldn't otherwise have to stay in touch with a lot of people I care about.
- Last weekend I got to spend time with Neil and Ellen in person, and it was great. In fact I barely slept (relatively speaking) because I kept staying up late to talk.
- Sarah also got to join us for lots of the weekend. I love how long she's known my family (17 years now!) and how comfortable she is around all of us even though we are so yelly.
- Henry also joined and we played uninterrupted tichu and it was a really close game! 1005-1095 I think. I love close tichu games.
- I felt particularly useful at work yesterday. Good feeling.
- My office area faces a wall of floor-to-ceiling windows and this week when it was breezy leaves would flutter all around me.

- Clara and Jane play pretend together frequently, and I'm so grateful they have each other for company.
- Earlier this week we received some awesome kids Halloween books from Beth and several Halloween shirts, toys, and treats from my beloved in-laws.
- We're going to the pumpkin patch tomorrow with the one family with kids who has been spending time with us these last several months. Really glad we have them to join. Apparently they are also psyched about it.
- Next weekend we are going to "Erin's Halloween Candy Hunt," the event we've been counting down to in this house (literally, with a paper chain) since it was 45 days out. It's basically an easter egg hunt, but Halloween themed. It's going to be great, and it's entirely private so it cannot be cancelled unexpectedly.
- Jack often calorie counts the dinners he makes just for me, so I can better track what I'm eating. Such a sweet gesture.
- Our Director of Operations at work has decided to just...redo the office kitchen? And it's adorable. Lots of new colors and storage, backsplash, etc., feels halfway to a home kitchen. I really like it.
- A few of my friends who have left FB over the years have created a Discord channel for a group of us to keep in better touch, and it's been a great connection and outlet the last few weeks. So glad they thought of it.
- Last night when I pulled into my parking spot, Clara was standing in the nursery window and saw me. She started grinning hugely and as soon as I got out of the car she started shouting hello to me. Very sweet.
- Most nights when I get home from work, I walk in the front door and there is a moment when each of the kids realizes I got home and starts beaming. Calvin usually starts bouncing up and down on his butt reaching up for me to pick him up. Also very sweet.
Saturday, October 3, 2020
10.3.20 - Joy status: kids Halloween books
Friday, October 2, 2020
10.2.20 - Kid snippets: decorations are the cure
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| All ready for Halloween. |









































