Saturday, April 25, 2020

4.25.20 - Joy status: Thunderstorm date

Date night: to go sushi at a picnic table by the Missouri River.


The best part of the date was watching a thunderstorm rolling in. Midwestern thunderstorms are in my joy inventory.


We coudl tell it was going to start pouring on us soon, so we were sort of speed walking to the car in the warm wind, but we were so happy to experience the thunderstorm rolling in we were kind of giggling about it.


It did start sprinkling on us as we neared the car, which we were very dramatic about. Once in the car we sat for a minute and continued to watch.


We drove a short way and picked up drive thru Dairy Queen, then came back to the riverfront and ate ice cream while it poured all around us. I loved it.

Wednesday, April 22, 2020

4/22/20 - Kid snippets: no potatoes

Me: Would you guys like any more ham and potatoes?
Jane: **gasp** potatoes?!
Me: Is that a yes?
Jane: ...no

Sunday, April 19, 2020

4.19.20 - Joy status: our own playset

We are in Missouri sheltering with my in-laws. The playgrounds are all closed, so they bought a playset for their backyard. Grateful for that, and grateful for Jack and my father-in-law spending the last couple hours putting it together.


Friday, April 17, 2020

4.17.20 - Joy status: audiobook while cleaning

This evening I spent three or four hours listening to an audiobook I'm really enjoying (The Righteous Mind) while I cleaned and packed for our travel tomorrow. Jack had taken the kids elsewhere and I was completely uninterrupted. It felt like leisurely sitting around reading a book I love while the house magically got cleaner. It was a much-needed intellectually stimulating change of pace.

4/17/20 - Kid Snippets: Clara cheers up Jane

Jane is crabby. She and Clara are eating breakfast at the dining room table.

Clara hasn't said anything.
Jane: Weave me awone!
Clara: Mom! Jane said to leave me alone!
Me: Yeah she's a little crabby this morning. You should probably leave her alone.
Clara: Jane, be happy of me! I love you.
Jane: *silence
Clara: Jaaaane! I said 'I love you'!
Jane: ...I wuv you too
Clara: Gimme a hug
*Hugs*

I can't believe that actually worked but I'll take it.

Thursday, April 16, 2020

4.16.20 - Joy status: piano practice, pickup truck, fireplaces

Joy Inventory: listening to Sola and then Rocket practice piano (in particular Rocket is learning Hedwig's Theme); driving my dad's big pickup truck; the rearview camera on my dad's big pickup truck making me a much better driver; a cozy fireplace on this, another snowy day; having friends who disagree/discuss well; generous and supportive in-laws; and, always, Diet Coke.


Saturday, April 11, 2020

4.11.20 - Joy status: great TV show

Joy inventory: when the TV show is so good you don't even want to finish the season.

Ozark' Season 4: Netflix Renews for a Fourth and Final Season ...

4/11/20 - Kid snippets: Jane is a charge

The girls were trying to play I Spy but they kept bickering.

Clara: I spy with my little eye something purple.
Jane: No! No purple!
Clara: She won't do it with me!
Me: I'll do it. Is it that car?
Clara: No! It's Papi's house!
Me: Oh cool.
Jane: No purple!
Clara: She won't do it with me!
Me: But I just did it with you.
Clara: But Jane said no!
Me: Well Jane isn't in charge.
Clara: Jane *is* a charge!

Wednesday, April 8, 2020

4.8.20 - Poopy in the poopy jar

Tonight Jack put the girls in the bath tub. I joined everyone in the bathroom so I could give Calvin a sponge bath at the same time. For a moment I got a strong scent of poop and I was afraid one of the girls had gone in the tub, but they hadn't. Checked Calvin's diaper and he was clean too, so maybe it was just a fart. However the incident led me to mimic the "Who took the cookie from the cookie jar?" format and I said something about who let a fart go. The girls thought it was hilarious and quickly adapted it to their own song, which went something like:

Girls: Who took the poopy from the poopy jar? DADDY took the poopy from the poopy jar!
Jack: Who me??
Girls: Yes you!
Jack: Not me!
Girls: Then who?? [And here Jane would dramatically spread her arms, palms facing up, like it was this great mystery]
Jack: MOMMY took the poopy from the poopy jar!
And repeat, with every family member.

The girls squealed with delight and grinned and laughed, and they wanted to repeat the process several times, especially Jane. She even had a little dance to go with it. She thought it was all so funny. Calvin watched amused and mystified.

Fast forward to bed time. Lately I've been singing them each "Baby Mine" most nights before bed. I used to resist doing so every night but that was often when I was exhausted from lab. I also had this vague idea that if I did it every night it wouldn't be special to them anymore, but I've since scrapped that. If they still ask to do it they must enjoy it, and I certainly do.

I actually have started taking a lot of meaning out of it. Once a few weeks ago Clara silently held her arms around my neck the whole time I sang it, and it was quite moving. So now when I do it, I make sure whichever girl whose turn it isn't stays quiet to let me and the girl I'm singing too fully embrace the moment.

Jane always goes first, which they both seem to prefer. Tonight I softly stroked her hair as I sang slowly and she stared up at me. I thought about how quickly they're growing, how sad it is that Scout isn't here, and how glad I am that they still ask me to hold them and sing this, because eventually they won't want me to. It was a solemn bonding moment for me with Jane.

Then it was Clara's turn, but the moment I started singing to her, Jane started softly singing "Who took the poopy from the poopy jar?" It was all I could do not to laugh. I solemnly told her to stop and let me sing to Clara. I started the lullaby over, and I heard Jane mutter under her breath "Who took the poopy from the poopy jar?" I stopped and very sternly told her to quit or I'd smack her hand, but it was all I could do to not laugh and undermine myself. Even after that she muttered very very softly to herself until I was done with the song, then she burst out with normal volume.

Whole this was pretty funny.

Bath pic from about a week prior.

Tuesday, April 7, 2020

4.7.20 - Joy status: dogs eating off the floor

Joy inventory: the dogs at Dad's house who eat everything that my kids drop on the floor. It's so easy!

Sunday, April 5, 2020

4/5/20 - Kid snippets: why does Jack love Clara?

Clara: I love you very much
Jack: I love you too
C: Why?
J: I just do. You don't have to earn it.
C: No, say lots of things
J: You want me to tell you lots of reasons I love you?
C: Yes

Saturday, April 4, 2020

4.4.20 - Joy Status: Clara reading

Clara just read two pages from "One Fish Two Fish." She did a combination of sight reading and sounding words out. All I did was point to each word to help her focus on which one to read next. She was super excited about it. I gave her a huge hug and then Jack told her he needed an even bigger hug, so she stood by the front door and he stood across two rooms and then she ran as fast she could all the way up to him and he lifted her in the air. As I was leaving just now I asked her to lock the door behind me, and she said she couldn't cuz she had to read some more.

Thursday, April 2, 2020

4.2.20 - Joy statuses: Clara's chipmunk voice, Baby mine, siblings

1) Sometimes chipmunk-voice Clara tries to do the voice of the Cave of Wonders from Aladdin with hilarious results. ("INFIDELS! You have TOUCHED the FORBIDDEN TREASURE!")

2) Some nights before bed I hold first Jane and then Clara and sing the lullaby "Baby Mine" (from Dumbo). When it's Clara's turn, Jane usually lies in her own bed singing along with us. <3

3) This is a repeated joy but I am *so* glad that these two girls have each other (and also Calvin as he gets older and more interactive). Either one of them would be a lot more bored and lonely right now without the other, but instead they play together all the time.

Friday, March 27, 2020

3/27/20 - Kid snippets: Pig adopts elephant

Jane just told me that her baby elephant was crying because he misses his mama because his mama is at Starbucks. But then she found a large stuffed animal pig to be his mom and it's fine now. Not sure what life lessons we've learned here.

Wednesday, March 18, 2020

3/18/20 - Kid snippets: Jane defends Clara

Me: Clara, I need you to go sit on the potty.
Jane, fierce: Mama! Weave her awone!!
Me: You...you want me to leave her alone?
Jane, fierce: Yes!
Me: Well she has to go sit on the potty.
Jane, completely calm: Oh, okay. *turns to Clara, higher pitched, persuasive toddler voice* Sit on potty, Clawa.

Saturday, March 7, 2020

3.7.20 - Kid snippets: Jane can't see her toy

I was trying to tell Jane where a toy was.

Me: Look on the couch. Behind you. There's a bag on the couch. The toy is in the bag. Look behind you!
Jane, standing directly in front of the couch facing me: I can't see it!
Me, laughing: Look behind you!
Jane loses interest and starts playing with a toy in front of her on the coffee table.

Pic from the same day - watching the rain.

Tuesday, March 3, 2020

3.3.20 - saying good night to Clara

I left for work before the kids were awake and didn't get home until they were already in bed. Jane was already asleep but Clara was still up. She heard me talking to Jack in the living room and called to me to come see her.

I went into the dark nursery and talked to her briefly about her day. I asked her if they sang her "Happy Birthday" at school and if she gave all her friends stickers and she told me about it a little bit. I asked her for big hugs and I really couldn't get enough because I've been thinking all day about my little girl being not so little anymore. Each hug made me think of how I used to hold her when she was just a tiny little baby. After maybe the third hug:

Me:"I love you so much."
Clara: "I love you too Mom."
Me: "I can't believe you are five years old!"
Clara: "How old are you?"
Me: "34."
Clara: "Wow that is so big and fat!"

She clearly thinks fat is a compliment.


Monday, March 2, 2020

3.2.20 - Clara's birthday mini family celebration

I had been out of town since Friday morning in Portland for a pro-life thing. Jack picked me up at the airport with Jane and Calvin in tow. after going home with them to make lunch take care of a few things I went to pick up Clara from school.

When I got there she didn't see me at first, and I stood quietly near the door and watched her play with other kids. It was very reassuring to see how they all got along and how she was part of the group. When she did see me she was excited and announced "Mom, you're back!" She ran up and gave me a big hug and she pointed me out to some of her classmates and said "This is my mom! She's so cool."

As we left the classroom I realized I needed to fill her sippy cup. She showed me where the outside water fountain was and how to use it. It has a little stool for the kids to stand on so they can reach. Then we got in the car and rolled the windows down to enjoy the really nice day outside. As we drove to Safeway I asked her questions about her day and then about her birthday. I asked her what kind of cake she would like; she told me brown. She meant chocolate. She also explained that she would like three presents and that she would want them to be wrapped in wrapping paper that was brown like her shoes and red like her pants and pink like her shirt. I said we'll see.

When we got to Safeway she wanted to carry the reusable shopping bag herself. We went inside and looked at balloons. Originally she picked out two: one for her and one for Jane. But then upon further thought she also picked out one for me and one for Jack, and all of them were colors that matched the clothes we were wearing today. She carried the balloons in her shopping bag over her shoulder and followed me around talking to me about her plans while I looked for gluten-free cake mix. She talked to several passers by who wished her happy birthday. She also very carefully put the balloons on the conveyor belt at check out and then talked to the cashier about the balloons and about our plans. Everyone seemed to think she was adorable, and they're right.


Then we walked to the Dollar Tree, which is adjacent to Safeway, and we picked out a bunch of Paw Patrol stickers for her to take to school tomorrow. We also grabbed a little soccer ball she found on the floor of the aisle and was excited about. She chose a number 5 candle for her cake. It was fun letting her help me get all of the supplies. On the way home she wanted me to keep all of the windows up in the car because she was afraid the balloons would float away (though they were not helium).

Once we got home I made some gluten-free pizza and I added bacon and extra cheese. The kids watched Lady and the Tramp, Jack took care of Calvin, and I started making the cake. While the cake was baking and the kids were occupied I quickly wrapped a few of the presents we've received via mail for Clara. I didn't wrap all of them because I think she will like to have some more to open on the day we actually celebrate when we go to Fairy Tale Town. Jane wasn't as into the movie as Clara was, and kept coming to watch me doing different prep. She was especially interested in watching me wrap the gifts.

When the cake was cooling I started blowing up some regular balloons. Clara picked out one of each color and the girls watched in delighted fascination as I blew each one up. Once they had about six or seven they started trying to make them all fit in the laundry basket or on the red office chair and laughing delightedly as balloons would pop up and float around the room. They had a great time. They are so easy to entertain at this age.


They also helped me with the cakes. I had made two in an attempt to do a double layer but I couldn't get them out of the pan without messing them up, so I decided to just have two small cakes. Clara helped me spread the frosting on each and they both helped me put rainbow sprinkles on each, which means the cakes were "caked" with sprinkles. But it was worth it to watch the girls get excited about decorating.


For most of this prep Jack dozed on the couch with Calvin, which frankly was very helpful because then Calvin wasn't constantly interrupting. They looked so peaceful too.


But by now Calvin was finally waking up so we cleared off the table and put the presents, balloons, and cake on it. We had everyone sit around and we sang Clara "Happy Birhtday."


They enjoyed some cake and then it was time for presents. Clara wanted to hand one present to each of her siblings, which was so sweet. I explained all the presents are for her because it's her birthday. Jane handled it well. Clara was most excited about the snake magnifying glass and she and Jane laughed a lot looking at each other through it for a while.


After all of that I decided to take a shower. Not long after I started, Clara peeked her head in to see what's going on. She and Jane both wanted to join me, so Clara hurriedly took her clothes off, Jack helped Jane with hers, and they both got in the shower with me. I like to take very hot showers and neither of them wanted to be directly in the water but they each had a cup and they stood near me and tried to capture the water running off my elbows or shoulders or hair. They did this the entire time and seemed to really enjoy it. They reminded me of little ducklings following their mother around.

When we were done they came out to the table and ate more cake. At one point Jane was completely naked with chocolate all over her face, and she seemed very happy about both of those facts. Clara was talking to me about how the food goes in her mouth and down into her stomach, so I pulled up a YouTube video for kids about the digestive system and she and Jane watched it at least three times. Before bed Jack and I heard Clara explaining to one of the balloons how her food turns into poop.

Anyway we haven't even done her big celebration yet but she seemed to have a wonderful time. I can't believe that she's 5 years old or that I have been a mother before at least that long. Something about age 5 makes it seem like her younger childood is really over now as she moves into, I don't know--"middle" childhood." But I've enjoyed the baby/toddler phase so much. I'm both nostalgic and sentimental about her very small years already done but also looking forward to continuing to watch her grow. Parenthood is so strange and wonderful.